SATURDAY, JUNE 30, 2012
I just watched an old episode of
Grey's Anatomy where McDreamy is making his choice
between Meredith and his wife of eleven years. He says to Meredith
that his wife is his family. That there have been eleven Thanksgivings, eleven
birthdays, eleven anniversaries, and he can't just make a snap decision to
give it all up.
The scene really hit me because my husband and I have had 21 Thanksgivings, 21 birthdays, and in two and a half weeks we will have had 21 anniversaries. How do you make the snap decision to walk away from that?
I keep thinking of things that my husband has taken care of in those 21 years.
Today my daughter and I did post-storm cleanup. He would have taken care of that.
I got a glass of water from the refrigerator, and realized I don't know how to change the water filter. He takes care of that.
It's time to renew the family membership at BJ's. Do I keep it, cancel it, or see if they have a single person membership?
When do the tires need to be rotated, and the oil changed in the car?
Who do I put down as an emergency contact on medical forms?
How do we handle Parents' Weekend at our daughter's school?
All the things that couples share, chores that each one takes care of, events that come up. These are all things that I didn't think about right away, but the longer we are apart, the more I'm realizing how intertwined our lives became over the years.
How long does it take until you aren't turning around to ask your spouse a question, and realize they aren't there anymore?
The scene really hit me because my husband and I have had 21 Thanksgivings, 21 birthdays, and in two and a half weeks we will have had 21 anniversaries. How do you make the snap decision to walk away from that?
I keep thinking of things that my husband has taken care of in those 21 years.
Today my daughter and I did post-storm cleanup. He would have taken care of that.
I got a glass of water from the refrigerator, and realized I don't know how to change the water filter. He takes care of that.
It's time to renew the family membership at BJ's. Do I keep it, cancel it, or see if they have a single person membership?
When do the tires need to be rotated, and the oil changed in the car?
Who do I put down as an emergency contact on medical forms?
How do we handle Parents' Weekend at our daughter's school?
All the things that couples share, chores that each one takes care of, events that come up. These are all things that I didn't think about right away, but the longer we are apart, the more I'm realizing how intertwined our lives became over the years.
How long does it take until you aren't turning around to ask your spouse a question, and realize they aren't there anymore?
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